Friday, July 20, 2012
Friday Reads: MWF Seeking BFF by Rachel Bertsche
I think perhaps the thing that resonated so strongly with me about this book is how her plight so closely mimics my own in many ways. Two years ago, I realized most of the friends I had made in college had dispersed around the world. I had acquaintances here but hadn't really pushed myself to find closer friends. My high school BFFs lived in different cities and had different lives now that I questioned my role in. By 2010, I was overweight, lonely and well on my way to depressed. When I started to make the changes that would affct my health, I also made the decision to start to putting myself out there. Suddenly friendships followed. I didn't embark on the crazy journey Bertsche did, but I believe you always need to make your journeys work for you and to assess when they stop doing so. Though I still don't have that BFF who I could call at a moments notice - I never really did. And I don't really miss that in my life. The people I surround myself with now care about me and want to spend time with me and vice versa. That is a huge change from some of the "work intensive" friendships I had in the past.
MWF Seeking BFF chronicles her adventures and dates along the way. Bertsche writes in a very comfortable manner. You can tell that this was a journey she blogged about because she has that kind of style to it. Her writing is easy to read and engaging enough to keep you following along. By the end, I felt like I had found a kindred spirit in her and could relate greatly to her journey. I liked how she peppered the chapter with advice from "experts". In the end, I think she realized that by putting herself out there and being open to the interactions, friendship found her. It is a pretty good lesson to learn and one that so many people who lament a lack of close adult friendships should listen to.